The Power of Just Listening in Therapy
Recently as a team, we were discussing our therapeutic styles and what we offer our clients in session. As a seasoned clinician with years of experience and advanced training, I reflected on how I show up for my clients, what I do best and where I pride myself in my skills. I believe I became a therapist not because I thought I was the best at helping but because I love to listen to people’s stories. In my clinical work now, I do not claim to be an expert nor do I have the best advice. I truly do love connecting with my clients, listening to their stories and being with them as they discover their path forward. Emphasis on their path, as I believe being client centered is allowing clients to choose what is best for them. We often forget how powerful listening can be in therapy. It's not just about collecting information; it's a key tool for therapists. When a therapist truly listens, they're offering support, empathy, and validation.
Feeling Heard = Feeling Supported
When someone feels truly heard, they feel supported. It shows that the therapist cares and wants to help. This support can combat loneliness and boost hope. I love my clients. Every single one of them, even the grumpy ones! I become invested in hearing them and in doing so I truly root for them. I believe my clients can feel that.
Empathy Through Listening
Empathy is all about understanding another person's feelings. When a therapist listens with empathy, they see the world through the client's eyes. This helps clients feel understood. In listening I pass no judgement, I work to understand everyone’s experience.
Validation Through Listening
Validation means acknowledging and accepting someone's feelings. When a therapist listens with validation, they tell the client that their feelings are real and matter. This helps clients feel less ashamed and more confident.
Listening Actually Sparks Change
Beyond support, empathy, and validation, listening can kickstart change. When clients feel heard, supported, and understood, they're more open to change. This can help them find new ways to cope, improve relationships, and live better lives. After listening, it’s genuine when I become the biggest cheerleader for my clients. If someone is rooting for you, wouldn’t you want to make a change too?
Find your therapist that listens to you
Listening is a core part of therapy that helps clients feel supported, understood, and validated. It can also be a springboard for change. So, if you're looking for a therapist, find one who's a great listener.
